The Power of Presence

YO YO YOOOOO!!!! What up H3:33 Fam Bam!! How ya’ll doing?!? Last week it started getting dark SUPER early….NOW….its COOOLLLLDDDDD outside. Makes sense though because it’s that time of the year. Stay warm, safe, and aligned with what is best for YOU along your journey.

This week was the first week in like 3-4 weeks that I was unsure about what I would write about and up until the morning of 11/11…..I was still undecided. As I was working on my NEWLY launched YouTube Channel (check me out, there's a link at the top and bottom of this page LOL) a video I created and posted that day touched on the power of PRESENCE. So I decided to keep the vibes the same……

“Most humans are never fully present in the now, because unconsciously they believe that the next moment must be more important than this one. But then you miss your whole life, which is never not now.” - Eckhart Tolle

ME! I have been this type of human….sitting in a mindset of living for tomorrow…or even WORSE…..reflecting back on past events. While in this space I probably felt like there had to be a better way to move in the world  but did not try(until the last 2-3 years) to shake that feeling. Working hard daily to build a better future for myself. Or ruminating on past mistakes that I had to learn to view as lessons in order to become a better version of myself.

Back in 2020, when the world shut down because of the pandemic, I was able to work from home and the boys’ mother could not. So that was the first time I took over full time Daddy duty. There was a LOT going on in my life at that time(like everyone) and I was just trying to make it through the days. Working from home with 2 three soon to be four year olds was NOT easy…..but I got it done(with the help of my Auntie!). Unfortunately, me getting it done…...was me not being fully present in the now. Looking back at that period of time, I can see where I missed valuable moments that will never return. Enjoying the end of toddler years, better PREPARATION for kindergarten, etc……

Spending time in the past or the future is where EGO resides. To keep us thinking, planning, regretting, or worrying so much that we forget to feel. PRESENCE lives in surrender, not strategy. When we’re present, we connect to the moment GOD is actually blessing us in… not the one we’re trying to control.

Presence is power because it’s where peace lives. The past teaches, the future inspires, but the present TRANSFORMS.

Healing builds strength, rising builds legacy.

Check me out next week for another glimpse into the Journey! If this post sparked questions, comments, or reflections. Feel free to comment below, hit me up on YouTube, IG, or TikTok. I’m always down for a thought-provoking discussion or feedback for growth. 

Holla at MMmeeeeeee

Hiram

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It’s Not Confrontation…It’s Conversation

AYYYYEEEE What up H3:33 Fam Bam! It’s that time again…..How is everyone? Hard to believe that it is November and that 2025 will be over before we know it. Daylight savings time has hit…. It is dark before 6pm now and sometimes that can impact people negatively. There is no dark without light and life is always about BALANCE. So keep that in mind 😉

As we delve back into another note from the journey….I’d like to talk about the difficulty that can come with having TOUGH conversations. Whether you are the one bringing up the topic or on the receiving end of the conversation. I recently was on the receiving end of a tough conversation because I did not vocalize my emotions properly. I have had to deliver tough conversations because boundaries were crossed, adults were not being accountable for their own actions, or just a typical time on Dad duty. 

I have been on the receiving end of many tough conversations that I did not always handle in a productive manner. I’m much better than I used to be…..so let’s talk about it. The other day I was approached by my lady because my energy seemed “off”....she knows me VERY well and since she thought something was wrong….she checked on me to see what was up. Now truthfully..nothing was wrong at all. So when I was asked, I just mentioned “I’m good”.  At the moment that is what I thought was the truth but after a day of little to no and/or short communication.

A CONVERSATION was had…..That’s when I realized how quickly misunderstanding can grow when silence fills the space where truth should be.

“Not seeing eye to eye can be fixed with a heart to heart” 

Word to my guy Big Sean

Without getting into all of the details, while nothing was truly bothering me, my actual behavior throughout the day was not aligned with how I am when I am “good” . It happened to be a busy day, and typically when I am busy I switch into productive mode……and just like it sounds….I am HIGHLY productive…BUT…in that mode I can also be dismissive. It is not my intention to be rude but if the other person is unaware of this “mode” and when I’m asked if anything is wrong and I say “I’m good” or that “nothing is wrong”......It is easy to understand confusion growing.

It is not CONFRONTATION….It is CONVERSATION…..

Leading with EGO……..in either perspective….the one initiating the tough conversation…..or the one receiving the conversation…..is dangerous. HURT feelings will cause the temperature of the convo to increase rapidly. Whether we are being held accountable or the one holding accountability over another human's head……We have to approach the situation with GRACE and receive with GRACE. 

I am a Sagittarius and we are notorious for being very BLUNT…..I have had to learn grace…in multiple aspects of life. Using conversation as an opportunity for growth…is important to remember. It is not about winning or losing….it is about improving ourselves, our relationships and our lives. 

Sometimes the HARDEST conversations are the ones that bring the most peace. Speak with grace. Listen with intention. Remember it’s not confrontation, it’s conversation.

Healing builds strength, rising builds legacy.

Check me out next week for another glimpse into the Journey! If this post sparked questions, comments, or reflections. Feel free to comment below, hit me up on IG, or TikTok. I’m always down for a thought-provoking discussion or feedback for growth. 

Holla at MMmeeeeeee

Hiram

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The Lesson Before The Lesson

YYYOOOOOO!!!! Looks like it’s that time again as I am back with another Note from the Journey. How is everyone? The weather’s shifting, the days are shorter, and the holidays are creeping up. In the middle of all that noise, remember to keep yourself on your own priority list 🙂. 

This week’s post came to me on Sunday, after an intense meditation and deep conversation with my llllaady. We were talking and I mentioned how literally every mistake I made in life I was forewarned about at some point in time. The thing about that is….do we take heed to our parents, angels, ancestors, intuition, etc??Or let the ego lead from a place of ignorance? We all have a choice…because there is always a choice….and that is because God gave us FREE WILL!   

Looking back, there are countless times in which I was advised one thing and decided to let my ego lead me into a dark abyss. Hahaha not really humorous but I’m gonna share something that is kinda funny. 

When I was a child I wasn’t shy about letting it be known how I could NOT WAIT to be “grown”. I remember feeling like this at a young age, I am not sure which exact age but I know that is was one in which I had NO idea what it meant to be grown 😂

If I recall correctly….I don’t believe I was hesitant about sharing this sentiment with those older than me. It did not matter who it was….parents….grandparents….aunties…or uncles…..it was one band one sound. “Boy, Stop” in all different variations …….edited mostly but explicit at times hahaha  which was necessary to snap me back into the present moment. I was CONSTANTLY advised to enjoy my childhood, cherish the time and HAVE FUN. Reflecting back…..I can see that nearly every mistake I made could have been avoided if I would've sought counsel or simply LISTENED when I was being blessed with wisdom from an elder.

Being deeper than ever into adulthood I sit back and laugh at “Lil Hiram” wanting BILLS, STRESS, and RESPONSIBILTY.  I just KNEW being an adult was LIT hahaha my Dad used to drink brews with his dinner and to me I assumed it tasted like a caramel float or something……Imagine my disappointment LOL

In this moment today…I TRULY enjoy being an adult, but for stretches of time in adultland…..it’s been rough. Which is why all the people I mentioned above tried to steer me into the direction of childhood enjoyment. But…as we can tell from the theme of this post….I did not have a willingness to listen to advice. 

My discernment has failed me many times and now as a FATHER…..looking back at how I chose not to listen when I was a child/adolescent/teen/young adult. How do I become the breaker of chains?

I have or know someone who has the key to nearly every door my kids will come across…….but what makes them listen?

Life is about the journey , but it doesn't have to be hard at all times. I saw this quote I liked the other day ….

“If you went back and fixed all the mistakes you’ve ever made..you’d erase yourself”

It’s easy to look back on our tests once we’ve seen the answer key, but wisdom isn’t about hindsight…..it’s about HUMILITY. The willingness to SEEK counsel before we CRASH. The strength to quiet the ego long enough to hear God’s whisper. Guidance is always there; we just have to be willing to listen….

Healing builds strength, rising builds legacy.

Check me out next week for another glimpse into the Journey! If this post sparked questions, comments, or reflections. Feel free to comment below, hit me up on IG, or TikTok. I’m always down for a thought-provoking discussion or feedback for growth.

Holla at MMmeeeeeee

Hiram

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when change chooses you

What up H3:33 Fam Bam! Welcome to the first installment of my blog. This has been a long time coming and quite frankly is well overdue. I have been terribly inconsistent with my social media presence for H3:33 because I truly do not enjoy social media nor making content. Regardless of that, I have the framework for a book, feelings, insight, wisdom, and a desire to connect with those who resonate with my message. I know that means many will not want to read this for various reasons and I am completely at peace with that. Everyone is here for a specific reason and has their own path to follow and tests to pass. Sending positive energy and love to all. 

    My journey to the Hiram of today, sitting here typing to you at my dining room table while my kids are in school has been a tumultuous one. Without even going back too far, I will talk about all of the changes I have experienced since moving to my current place of residence(~3 years)…..

• Started a new position at Verizon

• Took over full time parental duties of my sons

• I found a best friend who became the love of my life, my inspiration, and one to check me when I’m TRIPPIN (which used to happen MUCH more than it happens now…..THANKS BABY!)

• My favorite Uncle became an ancestor

• My last remaining grandmother joined her son as an ancestor

• My 2nd favorite Uncle joined the ancestral realm

• I forced a Co-parental change rooted from an NOW RESOLVED mother trauma wound

• I lost the same (what some would call a very lucrative) job I mentioned up top

• Started Hiram’s Holistic Healing

• Currently contemplating yet another co-parental change

MMMAAAAAN!! It's been a time….and I’m sure there are things that I have possibly forgotten but those are the heavy hitters. I shared these moments to talk CHANGE…..voluntary and involuntary. 

   One of my favorite doctors likes to say “people only change when they are uncomfortable” and if we look at the current situation this country is in……many people are UNcomfortable. So how do we handle it?   

   Change isn't easy…it stretches us in ways we never asked for. Sometimes it feels like we’re being dragged through fire, and other times it feels like stepping into new air we’re not sure how to breathe. The challenge is real. Fear of the unknown, losing what’s familiar, and letting go of who we thought we were can shake us to our core. But here’s the thing…those exact struggles are the soil where the growth is planted. Without discomfort, there's no strength. Without loss, there's no gratitude. Without endings, there can be no beginnings. 

   When I look back, I see that every uncomfortable shift carried a hidden gift. The pain of losing loved ones made me cherish life more deeply. The job I lost cleared space for me to walk in my purpose. The battles in co-parenting forced me to heal old wounds. Change has been both my teacher and my test. And whether we choose it or it chooses us, one truth remains: change is not against us…it is for us. The question we must ask ourselves is not “Will change come?” but “How will I grow through it?”

Check me out next week for another glimpse into the Journey! If this post sparked questions, comments, or even challenges…

Healing builds strength, rising builds legacy.

 Feel free to leave a comment below, reach out on IG, TikTok, or my contact me page above . I’m always open to thought-provoking conversations and feedback for growth. 

Holla at mmmmeeeeee!

Hiram

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