The Lesson Before The Lesson

YYYOOOOOO!!!! Looks like it’s that time again as I am back with another Note from the Journey. How is everyone? The weather’s shifting, the days are shorter, and the holidays are creeping up. In the middle of all that noise, remember to keep yourself on your own priority list 🙂. 

This week’s post came to me on Sunday, after an intense meditation and deep conversation with my llllaady. We were talking and I mentioned how literally every mistake I made in life I was forewarned about at some point in time. The thing about that is….do we take heed to our parents, angels, ancestors, intuition, etc??Or let the ego lead from a place of ignorance? We all have a choice…because there is always a choice….and that is because God gave us FREE WILL!   

Looking back, there are countless times in which I was advised one thing and decided to let my ego lead me into a dark abyss. Hahaha not really humorous but I’m gonna share something that is kinda funny. 

When I was a child I wasn’t shy about letting it be known how I could NOT WAIT to be “grown”. I remember feeling like this at a young age, I am not sure which exact age but I know that is was one in which I had NO idea what it meant to be grown 😂

If I recall correctly….I don’t believe I was hesitant about sharing this sentiment with those older than me. It did not matter who it was….parents….grandparents….aunties…or uncles…..it was one band one sound. “Boy, Stop” in all different variations …….edited mostly but explicit at times hahaha  which was necessary to snap me back into the present moment. I was CONSTANTLY advised to enjoy my childhood, cherish the time and HAVE FUN. Reflecting back…..I can see that nearly every mistake I made could have been avoided if I would've sought counsel or simply LISTENED when I was being blessed with wisdom from an elder.

Being deeper than ever into adulthood I sit back and laugh at “Lil Hiram” wanting BILLS, STRESS, and RESPONSIBILTY.  I just KNEW being an adult was LIT hahaha my Dad used to drink brews with his dinner and to me I assumed it tasted like a caramel float or something……Imagine my disappointment LOL

In this moment today…I TRULY enjoy being an adult, but for stretches of time in adultland…..it’s been rough. Which is why all the people I mentioned above tried to steer me into the direction of childhood enjoyment. But…as we can tell from the theme of this post….I did not have a willingness to listen to advice. 

My discernment has failed me many times and now as a FATHER…..looking back at how I chose not to listen when I was a child/adolescent/teen/young adult. How do I become the breaker of chains?

I have or know someone who has the key to nearly every door my kids will come across…….but what makes them listen?

Life is about the journey , but it doesn't have to be hard at all times. I saw this quote I liked the other day ….

“If you went back and fixed all the mistakes you’ve ever made..you’d erase yourself”

It’s easy to look back on our tests once we’ve seen the answer key, but wisdom isn’t about hindsight…..it’s about HUMILITY. The willingness to SEEK counsel before we CRASH. The strength to quiet the ego long enough to hear God’s whisper. Guidance is always there; we just have to be willing to listen….

Healing builds strength, rising builds legacy.

Check me out next week for another glimpse into the Journey! If this post sparked questions, comments, or reflections. Feel free to comment below, hit me up on IG, or TikTok. I’m always down for a thought-provoking discussion or feedback for growth.

Holla at MMmeeeeeee

Hiram

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when change chooses you

What up H3:33 Fam Bam! Welcome to the first installment of my blog. This has been a long time coming and quite frankly is well overdue. I have been terribly inconsistent with my social media presence for H3:33 because I truly do not enjoy social media nor making content. Regardless of that, I have the framework for a book, feelings, insight, wisdom, and a desire to connect with those who resonate with my message. I know that means many will not want to read this for various reasons and I am completely at peace with that. Everyone is here for a specific reason and has their own path to follow and tests to pass. Sending positive energy and love to all. 

    My journey to the Hiram of today, sitting here typing to you at my dining room table while my kids are in school has been a tumultuous one. Without even going back too far, I will talk about all of the changes I have experienced since moving to my current place of residence(~3 years)…..

• Started a new position at Verizon

• Took over full time parental duties of my sons

• I found a best friend who became the love of my life, my inspiration, and one to check me when I’m TRIPPIN (which used to happen MUCH more than it happens now…..THANKS BABY!)

• My favorite Uncle became an ancestor

• My last remaining grandmother joined her son as an ancestor

• My 2nd favorite Uncle joined the ancestral realm

• I forced a Co-parental change rooted from an NOW RESOLVED mother trauma wound

• I lost the same (what some would call a very lucrative) job I mentioned up top

• Started Hiram’s Holistic Healing

• Currently contemplating yet another co-parental change

MMMAAAAAN!! It's been a time….and I’m sure there are things that I have possibly forgotten but those are the heavy hitters. I shared these moments to talk CHANGE…..voluntary and involuntary. 

   One of my favorite doctors likes to say “people only change when they are uncomfortable” and if we look at the current situation this country is in……many people are UNcomfortable. So how do we handle it?   

   Change isn't easy…it stretches us in ways we never asked for. Sometimes it feels like we’re being dragged through fire, and other times it feels like stepping into new air we’re not sure how to breathe. The challenge is real. Fear of the unknown, losing what’s familiar, and letting go of who we thought we were can shake us to our core. But here’s the thing…those exact struggles are the soil where the growth is planted. Without discomfort, there's no strength. Without loss, there's no gratitude. Without endings, there can be no beginnings. 

   When I look back, I see that every uncomfortable shift carried a hidden gift. The pain of losing loved ones made me cherish life more deeply. The job I lost cleared space for me to walk in my purpose. The battles in co-parenting forced me to heal old wounds. Change has been both my teacher and my test. And whether we choose it or it chooses us, one truth remains: change is not against us…it is for us. The question we must ask ourselves is not “Will change come?” but “How will I grow through it?”

Check me out next week for another glimpse into the Journey! If this post sparked questions, comments, or even challenges…

Healing builds strength, rising builds legacy.

 Feel free to leave a comment below, reach out on IG, TikTok, or my contact me page above . I’m always open to thought-provoking conversations and feedback for growth. 

Holla at mmmmeeeeee!

Hiram

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