when change chooses you

What up H3:33 Fam Bam! Welcome to the first installment of my blog. This has been a long time coming and quite frankly is well overdue. I have been terribly inconsistent with my social media presence for H3:33 because I truly do not enjoy social media nor making content. Regardless of that, I have the framework for a book, feelings, insight, wisdom, and a desire to connect with those who resonate with my message. I know that means many will not want to read this for various reasons and I am completely at peace with that. Everyone is here for a specific reason and has their own path to follow and tests to pass. Sending positive energy and love to all. 

    My journey to the Hiram of today, sitting here typing to you at my dining room table while my kids are in school has been a tumultuous one. Without even going back too far, I will talk about all of the changes I have experienced since moving to my current place of residence(~3 years)…..

• Started a new position at Verizon

• Took over full time parental duties of my sons

• I found a best friend who became the love of my life, my inspiration, and one to check me when I’m TRIPPIN (which used to happen MUCH more than it happens now…..THANKS BABY!)

• My favorite Uncle became an ancestor

• My last remaining grandmother joined her son as an ancestor

• My 2nd favorite Uncle joined the ancestral realm

• I forced a Co-parental change rooted from an NOW RESOLVED mother trauma wound

• I lost the same (what some would call a very lucrative) job I mentioned up top

• Started Hiram’s Holistic Healing

• Currently contemplating yet another co-parental change

MMMAAAAAN!! It's been a time….and I’m sure there are things that I have possibly forgotten but those are the heavy hitters. I shared these moments to talk CHANGE…..voluntary and involuntary. 

   One of my favorite doctors likes to say “people only change when they are uncomfortable” and if we look at the current situation this country is in……many people are UNcomfortable. So how do we handle it?   

   Change isn't easy…it stretches us in ways we never asked for. Sometimes it feels like we’re being dragged through fire, and other times it feels like stepping into new air we’re not sure how to breathe. The challenge is real. Fear of the unknown, losing what’s familiar, and letting go of who we thought we were can shake us to our core. But here’s the thing…those exact struggles are the soil where the growth is planted. Without discomfort, there's no strength. Without loss, there's no gratitude. Without endings, there can be no beginnings. 

   When I look back, I see that every uncomfortable shift carried a hidden gift. The pain of losing loved ones made me cherish life more deeply. The job I lost cleared space for me to walk in my purpose. The battles in co-parenting forced me to heal old wounds. Change has been both my teacher and my test. And whether we choose it or it chooses us, one truth remains: change is not against us…it is for us. The question we must ask ourselves is not “Will change come?” but “How will I grow through it?”

Check me out next week for another glimpse into the Journey! If this post sparked questions, comments, or even challenges…

Healing builds strength, rising builds legacy.

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Hiram

H3:33