When Peace is Unrecognizable
AAYYYEEE!!! What up H3:33 Fam Baaaammm!!! Guess what day it iisssss **Insert Geico Camel here** hahaha time for yet another note from MY journey to the man that I am today. I hope you all have been enjoying reading the stories and are able to find a nugget of wisdom here and there 😉. How is everyone? Last minute shopping, scrambling and stressing? I hope not! It’s the mmmooossst woonnnddeerrffuulll tiimmmmeee oooofffff the yyeeaaarrrrr….the time in which JOY…and PEACE is wished to one another across the world. Be sure to catch some of those vibes for yourself.
As the year is indeed winding down….there are only 3(including this one) Wednesdays left in 2025…..I wanted to touch on a state of being that was mentioned a few sentences ago. A space that I believe most people are looking for(or already have found) but did/do not truly understand what it “looked and/or felt like”......
PEACE!!!
Not chuckin the deuces at someone, or saying goodbye and the “peace” that arrives at that time. I’m talking about the peace that you feel in your soul because you have addressed the people, places or things…that cause you unrest.
Merriam Websters defines the “peace” I am referring to as:
a state of tranquility or quiet: such as : freedom from civil disturbance, a state of security or order within a community provided for by law or custom, freedom from being disturbed or bothered by people, noise, etc.
freedom from disquieting or oppressive thoughts or emotions
harmony in personal relations
What does peace look like to you?
I know that for me….in the not so distant past… I claimed to desire peace but lived in a chaotic manner without seeing the direct correlation to who I was and how I moved in the world….and what type of energy….specifically the feminine energy I was attracted to and attracted into my space. It was actually quite audacious of ME …to feel annoyed, bothered, put off or any other negative emotion you would like to insert here….. without feeling the same about myself.
LUCKILY for me……I ran across someone who did not HESITATE to tell me about myself and the toxicity that I was sitting in. Simply because SHE saw someone in me…..that I had not yet seen in myself. It is still not the right moment for OUR story….that is for a different time, different platform and probably a collaborative effort. However, I will say……
Over the course of years I had to address my patterns and behaviors……and trust me…..It was NOT always fun and games. Hard truths, uncomfortable conversations, no excuses, shadow work, meditations, and self reflections seemed to be a regular occurrence. But as the work continued I found freedom from being disturbed or bothered by people, noise, etc. I found freedom from disquieting or oppressive thoughts and emotions. Which made way for HARMONY in personal relations. And that’s when peace stopped being an idea…..and became a lived experience.
What does peace look like to YOU?
That is the 2nd time I asked that and there is always a method to the madness. When the outside world is not bothering you, when your mind is not your own biggest enemy, and your interpersonal relationships are DRAMA FREE……what does that truly look like………QUIET…..SERENE…..like a beautiful vacation picture…but you never left home.
I feel like society and media (film, music, TV) has done a number on our psyche. Struggle love, drama, anger, and other forms of toxicity have been normalized so that we do not recognize
1. What a healthy and peaceful relationship(platonic or romantic) looks like
2. What to do once we have found PEACE
“Do you know how to be happy?”
I will never forget when my LADY asked me that. I know I answered very quickly “Yes!” and might've even been a lil offended….but as she led me down the path to correction….and I sat with my answer….I knew that I did not know the answer to her question. Even being bothered by the question showed that I did not know….cause we have to remember. …..
It’s not confrontation…..It’s conversation….
This isn’t a “reality” TV show where pointless arguments lead to fake resolutions….this is the REAL reality….the one that we have created for ourselves. The one that if we do not like….we have the ability to change…not now but RIGHT now…..because God has given all of us …..FREE WILL.
I did not know what peace looked like…..or how to be happy….because I did not believe I deserved better than what I had been given in the past. I did not know what it looked like because the world tells us to behave a certain way without being accountable.
Peace was UNRECOGNIZABLE…..because I had never seen it in MYSELF. Peace was UNRECOGNIZABLE….because I had learned to self sabotage….when things seemed too good.
But YOU…do not have to be like ME…..You can cultivate the PEACE you want in and life and relationships…..
But YOU…do not have to be like me.
You can cultivate the peace you want in your life and relationships….by first creating it within yourself.
PEACE doesn’t arrive with fireworks or noise.
It shows up quietly…
in the absence of chaos..
in calm conversations…
in consistency..
in safety.
If peace feels unfamiliar, it doesn’t mean something is wrong.
It means your nervous system is learning something NEW.
SIT with it.
Don’t SABOTAGE it.
Let PEACE introduce itself to YOU.
Healing builds strength. Rising builds legacy.
Check me out next week for another glimpse into the Journey! If this post sparked questions, comments, or reflections. Feel free to comment below, hit me up on YouTube, IG, or TikTok. I’m always down for a thought-provoking discussion or feedback for growth.
Holla at MMmeeeeeee
Hiram
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