You Don’t Owe Your OLDself Loyalty
YOOOOOO!!! What’s going on H3:33 Fam Bam!! Since I started writing these blogs I feel like time (which was already moving rapidly) and the speed at which it is passing….has increased exponentially 🤯. Happy Wednesday, Christmas Eve and Notes from the Journey day! Ya’ll know the vibes over here by now….BUT…making assumptions is something I try to never do so I should honor that. Plus, this could be someone’s first time here…if so….WELCOME! I’m feeling good….feeling great…feeling great feeling good, how are yooouuu? Sharing my sentiments I hope. I already sang last week so I won’t take it there but sending positive vibes, healing energy, and LOVE to those in need 🫶🏿.
Now….let’s get to it. Tomorrow is a day in which lots of people are giving gifts to others…while potentially neglecting themselves. So I’d like to use this platform to give YOU…..a gift from ME…..that is actually a gift YOU…will be giving YOURSELF 😉. We’ll circle back to that in a little bit…..
There are only TWO more Wednesdays in this calendar year of 2025…..typically around this time people begin making promises to themselves, friends and family….or posting on social media about what will be left in 2025 and who they will now be in 2026. Change is a beautiful and necessary part of life…..a theme that was actually my first blog post back in October “When Change Chooses You”.....and here we are again but with a different angle.
A voluntary change……. when we are ready to leave behind values, ideas, friends, family, lifestyles, and jobs that worked for the “OLDself”….but no longer aligns with who we have and/or will become can be challenging. Along the twists and turns of my journey I often STRUGGLED with the man I was evolving into….and my old lifestyle. I saw a post long ago that resonated deeply and mentioned something along the lines of how our “diet” consists of MORE than the food we ingest with our mouths. It also includes the things we consume with our eyes and ears. The energetic exchange that comes from physical touch and may have even touched on how smells factor in(aroma therapy).
Using this perspective, and all of the variables that come with what is included in our “diet”.....what I came to realize is that…the diet of my OLDself…made the new verison of me….sick…..and the diet of that same new verison…..made the OLDself…..SICK. Both versions felt malnourished…but for opposite reasons….and as I am typing this…I am realizing that it is quite POETIC for real. Life is always about BALANCE….Yin/Yang….Light/Dark….Good/Evil…..Additon/Subtraction….Multiplication/Division…Rain/Shine….Gas/Brakes…Fire/Water….and I could go on and on but you get the point.
The hard part about that balance…..is remaining there. Earlier I mentioned that “values”, “friends”, “family”, lifestyles, and jobs will no longer align…and that will cause friction. When people have known “you” for a long time…..and have remained around…that means they were good with that verison……EVEN IF…that person was not the best version of YOU. This friction looks like arguments, lack of or NO communication, and possible sadness or anger. The friction looks different when it’s values, lifestyles or a job because a tough conversation with a friend or loved one may not(but ABSOLUTELY could) stem from this…..but an emotional response(sadness,fear, anger, uncertainty,etc) is likely.
The friction occurs because it is not easy for us…or others when what has been normalized….is no longer status quo. Unfortunately for the “others”....this is not about them….well…not directly anyway 🤷🏿♂️. Soooo…..Back to the gift I have for YOU…..
You Don’t Owe Your OLDself LOYALTY!
Don’t feel bad for the feathers you ruffle…..for the social events you no longer wish to attend……or the conversations you no longer wish to engage in.
EMBRACE the new diet you wish to consume….
SOAK in the PEACE that you have cultivated……
RADIATE the LOVE that you feel daily…..
REMEMBER that this version is not dependent on anyone or anything outside of your NEW most AUTHENTIC self! God gave us all FREE will and everything we need to be the best version of ourselves….INSIDE of us!
This is the gift that we give ourselves…..REMEMBRANCE.
You Don’t Owe Your OLDself LOYALTY!
We APPRECIATE that version for getting us to where we are, say THANKS and move on…turn the page…end the chapter….transition the season. If people outside of you do not understand ….that is a reflection of THEM…not you. Do not make ASSUMPTIONS and do not take anything PERSONAL. Try your BEST everyday and be IMPECCABLE with your words!
Healing builds strength. Rising builds legacy.
Check me out next week for another glimpse into the Journey! If this post sparked questions, comments, or reflections. Feel free to comment below, hit me up on YouTube, IG, or TikTok. I’m always down for a thought-provoking discussion or feedback for growth.
Holla at MMmeeeeeee
Hiram
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